How did your parents and family react?

Hey girls -

I was curious to know how your parents and/or other family reacted when they found out you have a hawk?
I just got my hair done 2 days ago. By the way I am 25 yrs old and live on my own with my bf, and not under my parents roof.
My grandparents are having their 55th anniversary party this weekend, and the plans were that my bf and I were going to attend it. We were going to go there with my parents.
Knowing this, I sucked it up and called my parents the night I got it done...I let them know that I have this new mohawk hairstyle, BUT that I don't plan on spiking it up and that I would wear it down around them and the family.
Their reaction? They were utterly shocked, upset, and immediately told me that I am not allowed to attend our family function this weekend! They hadn't even seen any pics of me or anything...just immediately banned me from going! I was so hurt :(
I tried calling my parents last night and that didn't get me anywhere. My mom could barely talk to me and threatened to hang up on me so we ended the call.

I wrote them a long email last night explaining everything out and sent them pics of my hair down, which I think makes a very cute short hairstyle for me. I just hope they read it and understand that I am still the same daughter I always have and a hairstyle won't change that.

I'm tempted to call my grandparents and let them know whats going on and see if my bf and I can visit them on another weekend, but I'm nervous about my grandmother. She's very judgmental just like my parents and I don't want to deal with a repeat issue..

I think as women, we have it harder when we choose to have a punked out hairstyle such as this. Especially when there are family members who are set in their ways that it isn't "ladylike or proper" for a woman to wear their hair in a mohawk style.

Anyway I was just wondering if anyone else had simular reactions as I did from their families and/or how you worked through them?

Replies to This Discussion

Permalink Reply by Glamour Addict on July 14, 2012 at 5:54pm

I had a mohawk previously for two years and never had any problems except the occasional "what made you want to do that" or "you look like a dyke" and then when i moved down south and re shaved my head all i get is shit. Weird how that happens.

Permalink Reply by Carrie Szasz on November 14, 2012 at 9:14am

I've only had mine since Saturday. My sister's all liked it and to my surprise, my mom didn't hate it. :-D My older relatives on the other hand did not approve, but honestly, they're the one who nag about anything so I'm not taking it hard. Only family that hasn't seen it yet is my dad and stepmother... which I'm guessing my dad will crack jokes but not care...my stepmother...I'm sure she'll disapprove and have some words for me. *shrugs*

Permalink Reply by Brittany Young on December 20, 2012 at 6:05pm

I'm 21 and disabled, currently living with my mom and brother. I've had it for about 6 months now. My mom wasn't too happy about it, but there wasn't anything she could do to stop me. My brother hates it as he doesn't like people staring when we're out. I'm disabled... I've been stared at my whole life for one reason or another! Who cares?! My grandma understandably does not like it at all, AT ALL! I'm pretty sure my "closest" aunt and uncle hate it as well, but I don't care.

Went to a family member's viewing about a week ago now and had so many compliments on it from various family members.

Overall it's not been too bad. If my annoying father were alive, I'm absolutely positive he wouldn't let me be seen with him - quite like my brother doesn't want me to be either.

Permalink Reply by The Iron Orchid on December 21, 2012 at 6:27am

Mum didn't mind so much, dad i think has honestly not noticed, such a man, but my boss was furious. I thought i was going to get fired. I have to pin it flat to my head all the way back and take the nose ring out... ;_; annoying as he never used to have a problem with it.....

Permalink Reply by Julie D. Saunders on December 22, 2012 at 2:11am

My parents just laughed the first time I had it up. My grandparents just say that it's a funny style and that I'll eventually grow it out. My think I'm joking when I say I'm keeping it. My fiance and his family love it. I've showed them how I wear it down and they like it.

Permalink Reply by Brittany Young on December 22, 2012 at 10:07am

I'm pretty sure everyone thinks I'm joking when I tell them I'm keeping it this way as well. And I know my Grandma is praying I grow it out... I'm only growing the 'hawk out, not the rest! Haha. We're so misunderstood.

Permalink Reply by Julie D. Saunders on December 22, 2012 at 7:39pm

Yeah I'm growing out the hawk too. My family and hometown don't like it, but everyone at my college and residence building love it. If only people understood.

Permalink Reply by steven Burke on December 23, 2012 at 7:04pm

My mom took me to get mine and really liked how it looked on me. My older sister loves to spike it up lol. She offered to shave the sides and dye it for me so I guess they didn't have a problem with it. Any they want me to grow it out so it will be awesome and taller cx

Permalink Reply by Veronique Vex on February 8, 2013 at 1:55am

That is wrong of them to do that. I still live with my parents and when i got it done, i did not tell them. i didnt tell them i was going to, didnt tell them i did. i just came home with my mohawk up. they were very shocked and upset at first but got used to and figured hair is hair and can grow back (except i keep it shaved LOL) and thought it to be pretty cool. My mom, NOW she is starting to hate it. she gives me crap about it all the time. i just shrug it off, if someone wont accept me its their loss