Do you veiw them as a sad goodbye, or a fond (sp?) goodbye.
personally, when someone dies, i veiw it as not being such a bad thing. sure i'll miss them, but when i die, i wont want people being sad... instead i want them to be happy for the life i lived... not the one i lost. hell i want them to look back and say, he was a good guy, an asshole sometimes, but a damn good guy.
btw, recently my bestfriends little sis died, and this is a poem i worte for him to read at the funeral:
THE LITTLE PRINCESS!
a little girl walks up to her mom and asks, "mom what happens when we die?"
the mom replys, "well some people think you go to heaven, so think nothing happens, but as for you... you'll get to be a princess in your very own castle"
the little girl coughs, smiles, and walks away
the next day the little girl goes to her mom and says, "mommy, what will happen when I die?"
the mom replys, "well, we'll cry and then remember that you are a princess in your very own castle"
the little girl coughs, smiles and walks away
on the thrid day the little girl walks up to her mom and says, "mommy, why are you crying?"
her mom doesn't reply, and instead she walks away and gets into her car
the little girl tries to chase after her but cant run fast enough
then a hand grabs her shoulder and a voice says, "come on princess, it's time to address your audiance"