What to say or NOT to say in first messages...=)
Fun little investigation on what gets the best and worse response rates with first messages on online dating sites:
OKCupid online dating advice
"Ok, here’s the experiment.We analyzed over 500,000 first contacts on our dating site, OkCupid. Our program looked at keywords and phrases, how they affected reply rates"
In summary:
#1 – Be literate. Netspeak, bad grammar, and bad spelling are huge turn-offs.
#2 – Avoid physical compliments.
#3 – Use an unusual greeting.
#4 – Don’t try to take it outside (e.g. chat, phone).
#5 – Bring up specific interests.
#6 – If you’re a guy, be self-effacing.
#7 – Consider becoming an atheist (mentioning God got the lowest response rate)
See the article for some easy chart details of what words work and don't.
What do you think?
What are your pet peeves or joys when reading a first message from someone? I think my number one dislike is when you get just 'hi' and nothing else in the message. My fav. is probably someone using 'awesome'. :D
OKCupid online dating advice
"Ok, here’s the experiment.We analyzed over 500,000 first contacts on our dating site, OkCupid. Our program looked at keywords and phrases, how they affected reply rates"
In summary:
#1 – Be literate. Netspeak, bad grammar, and bad spelling are huge turn-offs.
#2 – Avoid physical compliments.
#3 – Use an unusual greeting.
#4 – Don’t try to take it outside (e.g. chat, phone).
#5 – Bring up specific interests.
#6 – If you’re a guy, be self-effacing.
#7 – Consider becoming an atheist (mentioning God got the lowest response rate)
See the article for some easy chart details of what words work and don't.
What do you think?
What are your pet peeves or joys when reading a first message from someone? I think my number one dislike is when you get just 'hi' and nothing else in the message. My fav. is probably someone using 'awesome'. :D
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Permalink Reply by CorpseQueen on
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i also hate it when people comment/message me with "hi". if you want to talk to me start a conversation darn it! XD
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Permalink Reply by Kobalos on
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Yeah, it's also annoying when they ask you stuff answered on your profile already.
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Permalink Reply by Alex "Stinky" Ng on
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Yo, Ima Let You Finsh
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