Getting over someone?

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Permalink Reply by Nathaniel on March 27, 2012 at 9:29pm

I'm not sure that there's a lot that any of us can say that will really help, but I'll give it a shot.

The thing that helps me the most when I feel really low is to call up some friends.  It doesn't have to be a party, and it doesn't have to be a lot of people.  Just get together with someone (or a group of someones) that makes you smile and makes you happy.  The closer the friend, the better.  Just get your mind off of him and into a better space, because this feeling won't last forever.

But the absolute most important thing to remember is that no matter what, there will always be people that love you for who you are.  Every single person on this earth can find people that will appreciate them and stick with them.  The fact that this guy is being a total dickbag doesn't change that at all.  You will find someone that will love you and treat you right because you're a wonderful person.  Don't stop looking for that person just because this guy obviously isn't it.

And hey, for what it's worth, I think you're pretty cool just for being a member on this site :P

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Permalink Reply by Kobalos on March 28, 2012 at 4:38pm

Oh, there are always new people who will care for you for who you are.  Usually better, since you gain an insight into who really suits you better.

 

When someone can't spare a couple hours a week with you, they're not worth you.  Any really worthwhile person is willing to give up such little time for others and really you deserve more!

 

It'll take time to get over them, but be kind to yourself.  Just some walking usually helps me, just keep busy and maybe try some new things, new style/colour, etc.  Anything you like doing, do more of!  =)  They'll be better people.

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Permalink Reply by Alexis on March 28, 2012 at 7:34pm

I'm not a good role model for this, but I have seen that people are more compatible when they are not similar to each other. It gives you more to explore and learn about the other person. 

In a way my boyfriend, Eliott, and I are similar, but still different in lots of way too. I hope you understand what I am trying to say. I re-read it a few times and it's a bit wordy.

And also best of luck dealing with your emotions. I understand how difficult and painful relationships (or lack of) can be to deal with. Maybe you can take your mind off by coming back to the site more. We miss you!

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Permalink Reply by Chris Barlow on March 29, 2012 at 12:10am

I have had a lot of experiance with heartbreak, I say live your life day to day, eventually it will subside. But it will take time, a lot of time. Maybe ask him to take it down a notch and talk it on through, if you just want to feel better for even a little bit listen to Streetlight Manifesto, they always pull me through(: Just keep on going, there will be times where it will seem like you're not going to make it, but thats temporary(: If you really want to get over him then just look for someone else, even though it will be hard maybe you'll like who ever you meet. But keep your chin up, don't let this bring you down. I know you don't know me but if you need to talk just message me.

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Permalink Reply by Nathaniel on March 29, 2012 at 10:13am

"if you want to feel better for even a little bit listen to Streetlight Manifesto, they always pull me through"

+1

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Permalink Reply by Cassandra Thompson on March 29, 2012 at 6:42am

go out buy some new clothes get all sexy go to the bar, flirt with evreyman in sight lol...... i always feel better when i change my look up makes me feel like im a new person, do something for yourself. to make yourself happy you might have to pretend at first...but those smiles eventually become genuine 

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Permalink Reply by Alexis on March 29, 2012 at 6:25pm

Yeah, changing and starting something new always makes me feel better, especially cutting my hair.

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