Going to a show alone?

So there is a reel big fish show I wanna go to monday, but noone can go with me. I know some people that are gunna be there, but I am going to go alone if I go. Have any of you ever gone to shows alone? I never have and I'm scared I gotta say it dude, it's pretty intimidating.

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Permalink Reply by SAAYA on July 8, 2010 at 9:10pm

i've never been to a show alone, and if i lived near you, i would TOTALLY go see reel big fish with you :)

but the whole punk/ska community is very friendly and you will make new friends. and especially if you know people that are going to be there. then you're totally good to go! have fun!

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Permalink Reply by Alexis on July 9, 2010 at 4:43am

I just went to a show by myself this past week. It was way fun. There were people there I had met/known from other shows, but no one I had ever hung out with outside of that. I recommend going and making a new friend. Also wearing unique to you clothing can often spark conversation. Good luck and I hope you enjoy the show if you decide to go!

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Permalink Reply by GRINDCORE BASTARD on July 9, 2010 at 3:03pm

Don't let that stop you. As was already mentioned, the punk/ska/etc communities are really friendly...generally at shows it's just kids wanting to have some beers, let loose and enjoy live music. Walk up and say hello, strike up a conversation about something you noticed about the person or what's going on around you...and if you run into one uptight person, keep trying not everyone's like that. As nice it is having people you know there to share the experience, if you don't it shouldn't stop you from enjoying one of the main reasons you're there...the music. I've had a great time by myself and also made some of my best friends to this day when I was able to spend some time talking to those around me instead of just the group I came with.

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Permalink Reply by Ghetto Gutter Shock. on July 9, 2010 at 4:07pm

Way to go Ms. Grindcore Bastard....I wish I did not have the social anxiety I have...Because I know my best friends to be are all at them...Keep spreading the good word!!!

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Permalink Reply by Ace on November 3, 2010 at 10:50pm

damn I need to see Big D again, they opened for FM and I've been craving one of their concerts for a while now

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Permalink Reply by Hellion on July 11, 2010 at 2:42pm

Don't be afraid to go to shows alone. It's less scary than you might think.
When I first started going to shows, I had no one to go with either, but the more shows I went to, the more people I recognized. I am shy as well, but forced myself to make small talk with strangers, now whenever I go to shows, I know at least a couple of people in the crowd.

Just go! You'll have fun.

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Permalink Reply by Cpt. Oblivious on October 10, 2010 at 3:59pm

I go to shows alone quite a lot as all my friends with similar musical taste live far away :(
The one advantage of this is you will probably come away with a few new friends you meet in the crowd / queue. The amount of people I know purely from meeting at gigs is getting over 50 now and still rising. In fact, I met my best friend at a gig I went to alone.

So yes, it's definately worth going. Especially since you'll have fun anyway, you go for the music mostly.

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Permalink Reply by Fuck you on October 20, 2010 at 10:01pm

Your intimidated of a ska show?? Really?

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Permalink Reply by §̸̧̰̥̖̮́ͥ̋͢♅ͨ☭ͤ̾̃0░இ5ঊ◍6๑≴4থ⅋§ on October 21, 2010 at 12:00am

I had no friends before I went to shows. I always go to shows alone but now I have people I'm comfortable talking to. Just do it.

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Permalink Reply by Hex on October 21, 2010 at 3:35pm

well said foreverdown. I've been to lots of shows alone. A few times one thing or another has made me nervous and I've been known to ask an employee of the venue to walk me to my car (memphis's mass transit is a joke and doesn't run after 9 pm anyway, so you take your car to everything). I have never ever been refused this courtesy by any venue. Once I asked a bar tender to find me an escourt to my car (there's been a string of club you in the head and take your purse/wallet type events in that neighborhood) and as it turns out the only person available for such a task was the guy that runs the place. I ended up making a new friend and as the venue is one of those "well let anyone or anything that can bring a crowd book a night' had a fantastic conversation about what our city is lacking and what is working and what me and "my kind" would pay to see more of.
I do not recommend asking just any random person to walk you to your car...they may very well be the person you are trying to avoid meeting alone in a dark parking lot, go for a staff member.